February 23, 2011

Back to the drawing board...

I want to start off by welcoming some new members to our Bud group... Welcome, Teacher Bud and Cupcake Bud!!!!! I can't wait to follow your TTC journey :)

I can hardly believe it has already been a week and two days since my miscarriage. Personally, I think I am doing pretty well. The last time I cried was on Friday afternoon. We had a little trip planned with some friends for the long weekend and were spending time in our hotel on Friday when I just felt really sad all of a sudden. I couldn't help but cry, despite what a good time we were having. Poor Mr. DBud has been so incredibly supportive... Honestly with all this that has occurred, I must say that I do not know what I would've done without him! But I do know that he is worried about me.

Today, I got another one of those pesky e-mails from TheBump.com (pesky since they are currently not welcomed, due to the circumstances) letting me know what week 7 is all about... Only I wouldn't know cause I freakin' miscarried! I changed the due date to NONE but I still get the e-mails :-/ hopefully they go away soon... Anyway, I sent him a text telling him. He got worried and texted my friend about it, telling her how I say I am fine, but I am not. The truth is I am not fine, but it is what it is. I know I will eventually heal, but I need to allow myself some room to grieve, which I have been. Now I just have to wait to carefully plan my next move.

On a side note, I did stop bleeding on Sunday, and haven't bled at all since. And today, when I used the restroom and wiped, the paper was a bit shiny... Looked a bit like EWCM. I don't know if this is a good sign, but we aren't going to even officially continue TTC until after my next AF. We are even going to do something we haven't done in 5 years... Use CONDOMS!!! Until after AF at least... Weird... o.O

So, here's a question... For those who have miscarried in the past... How long did you wait before you BDed again?

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Sunflower Bud said...

After my m/c in August, we actually BD the day I after I stopped bleeding. It was an emotional thing to feel closer.

I actually ended up O'ing extremely early that cycle at CD 11.

*hugs* Thinking of you through all of this.

Teacher Bud said...

I don't have any advice, but I just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you.

PB&J Bud said...

Since my miscarriage was so early (chemical pregnancy) my OB said there was no need to wait for TTC. I think we ended up having sex a few days after I stopped bleeding.

I am thinking of you! And your grief will get easier to manage. Take the time you need to heal! ((hugs))

Explorer Bud said...

You definitely need to give yourself the time and OK to grieve for the loss and get back to your normal life. I know I would just burst into tears at random moments after the ectopic for a few months!! I just was supposed to wait 2 weeks from my surgery but that may be a little different than a normal miscarriage.

Me said...

I think for us it was a little after the two week mark. My doctor was adamant I be on pelvic rest for two weeks (risk of infection is high when cervix is open).

We had doctors orders to take a month off TTC.

I'm glad to hear the bleeding seems to be done for you. That's such a huge step. FWIW, I think I O'd right on time the month after my m/c (AF showed exactly when she was expected). I'm wishing the same for you as cycles can be wonky after a m/c.


Cactus Bud said...

ps. That last comment was from Cactus Bud. I didn't realize I was still signed into my personal acct. Oops.

Cupcake Bud said...

After our miscarriage I was told to wait three months. More so cause I have PCOS and he said he wanted to make sure I had at least three normal cycles before trying again.

However, I stopped myself altogether for a couple years almost cause I was afraid of going through it again :(

However, I am back in the game. I think it is important to follow how ever long the doctor says, but if you are not ready yet don't force yourself... like said before you need to give yourself time to grieve and heal and be okay. Everyone heals and grieves differently. I know for me it took longer and people would say not so nice things about how to move on, but I learned to ignore it because we all handle things differently and they are not me.

Part of my problem was I waited so long and was told it wouldn't happen and when it did I was beyond thrilled... so losing the little miracle myself was harder for me in different ways.

Diva Bud said...

Thanks for all the continued support ladies :) no crying since the 18th... Looking forward to good things, and keeping my chin up :)


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